She's a pistol, though, to borrow a phrase from my grandmother. Katie will always be the kid who keeps us on our toes and makes us question the world around us. We will fight back when the world feels it's necessary to push its own morals and values on her. We know we won't always win. When she's gotten through these teenage years, whatever she chooses to do will be incredible. I have faith in her.
Right now she's angry with us. And that's okay. My job isn't to be her friend. We've put our foot down with the school (again) because of questionable song choices (again). This time it's in choir. She's part of the select show choir, which is a big deal and we're very proud of her. The song choices for the spring concert include "Ain't No Mountain High Enough" (oldie but a goodie), "Home" by Philip Phillips (beautiful harmonies), and "Edge of Glory" by Lady Gaga. That's where we said no.
This child is not trading her morals to be part of choir. She's not compromising her values to make her music teacher happy. She wants to... oh, does she want to. And she's furious that we're setting limits. There will be no public performances of songs that include lyrics about being taken home or doing shots or needing "a man who thinks it's right when it's so wrong".
And this is hard. VERY hard. I don't want to make her "the girl who can't sing that one song in choir" or "the one with the crazy parents". I don't want to be the crazy parents. But I'll wear the crazy crown if it means standing up for her innocence.
Now, the next question is why did Pennsylvania tax dollars pay for a song about doing shots in the first place... but I'll leave that up to the school board to figure out if that's what it comes to.
Edited to add a bit of snarkiness...
The school handbook clearly states that students can not wear articles of clothing with references to drugs, alcohol, sex, etc. So to prove my point, I put the lyrics on shirts. They'd get kicked out of school for wearing the words, but not for singing them? Hm.